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Grudges vs letting it go

Do you hold a grudge? Do you just let things go? Maybe you talk things out. Does it help if you hold a grudge? Maybe you just do not care and you move on. Maybe you are missing out while you are holding a grudge. If you are holding a grudge are you always angry and upset? Does it feel good to hold onto all of that anger? Sometimes we just need to let it go or just move on. We say things we wish we can take back and we wonder how could someone that we have known for so long through good times and bad be so mad ? Maybe they enjoy proving how right they are. Maybe they want to be the tough one. Why not be the better person and work it out. Of course it depends on the circumstances. No relationship is perfect and no one person is perfect. Here is what I know I know that unless that person did something so horrible they are not worth forgiving but if you could work it out than why not? People have stupid arguments all of the time and some things are said we wish we can take back. Unfortunately, we cannot take it back but we can make it right. Why not move forward and make it right? Are you really that angry? Does it help to hold onto that anger or act like you want to push it out of your mind? How is that working for you? I pray for everyone and I wish the best for everyone. I just want good things for people. I pray that you work things out. Would you really not have that person in your life? Is your anger that important more important than your friendship. I do not know your circumstances but I do know that I take friendship seriously. Do you? Now onto the next life lesson.

What about Happiness?

There is no doubt the world is changing. I think it needs saving. I think many have forgotten their faith, their love for each other and their values. What is happening is NOT good. I am sad and scared. I pray every day that things will get better. I believe they will but it is going to take a while. I know that I have faith and love, and values . Who else is out there that has all of these things? I am tired of the negativity and I am tired of hearing about how bad the police are. They are NOT bad. There are bad apples in every bunch. You will always have a few but you should not let those few ruin it. What about all the good they do? We are so divided. I would not want to raise a child in this crazy world I am glad my kids are older. I still feel sorry for the youth today. Where is the accountability for this behavior? Where are the parents of these kids committing crimes? Someone once said people come together during a tragedy. the Oscars, and the Super bowl. Both have become a stomping ground to spread hate. All these people are doing is spreading hate. How is that working out? This is what we want our kids to learn? NOT my kids NO way! Where is the joy and the happiness? Where is the positive energy? Was is all stolen in some states? Please give back the love, the joy, the common sense and common ground for all of us. I am grateful I live in a state with a FANTASTIC Governor and I live around good people. I can just turn off my TV and go about my life. Can you do that? We need people to come together and have peace and joy. We need to NOT let the government decide how we live. Remember what Thomas Jefferson said, “Government giveth government take away with. It can give it you just as easily as it can take it away. People need to work and take care of their families, be kind to each other. I see it and if you start spreading kindness and doing the right thing people will join in and hopefully we can go back to the good old USA I know and love. Now onto the next life lesson.


Have you ever thought I wish I had not said that? Have you ever thought I wish I could take it back? Of course we have we have all been there. Maybe the other person thinks you do not want to talk to them. Maybe you make the first move and say let’s work this out. How good was the friendship? Were you close for a long time? Did you always make it through hard times? Are you a forgiving person? We have all had arguments and sometimes they last a long time and others times they get worked out. What if you had a close friend and you had a falling out and you did not speak for a long time? Eventually, anger does die down and things will work itself out. What if they don’t ? Than you wonder how strong the friendship really was. We all make mistakes but should we be punished forever? Maybe the argument was so bad it can’t be worked out. I think that is a real shame especially when you know the person a long time. Families fight and never speak again and then the person passes on and you wish you could tell them you were sorry. Some of us are stubborn and have to be tough and right all the time. Some of others are exhausted from trying to please others. We all have faults and no one is perfect. Make sure if you never speak you really stop and think about the friendship. Ask yourself do the good times outweigh the bad? Was this person a good listener? Were they always there for you? Did they ever disappoint you? Did you ever disappoint them? It is a two way street and if you hold a grudge and never speak to the person you better be sure it is worth it. You will no longer be in their life or share fun times or be a part of their future. Ask yourself is it worth it? I do not know your circumstances and I do know life is short and you just do not know what tomorrow brings. Thank you for reading my blog. Now onto the next life lesson.

The Next Step

I can honestly say that this past month has been a whirlwind. I feel like I have so many balls I need to keep up in the air. I feel anxious, afraid, and happy all at the same time. No matter where I turn there it is another dose of stress or change around the corner. Do you feel like this? As a Mom I am getting ready for my oldest to graduate. My youngest to start her second year of middle school . I need to adjust to the new routine the new phase of what is next. There is so much ugly in the world. What is happening to people and what are they thinking? When will it end? We will finally come together? I need a plan and a road map of what to do next. My life is changing and it is all good in the end. I guess it is just so many things going on at once. I feel like I barely have time to write. I love to write that is my passion. I need my passion. I need my faith and my hopes and my dreams. I need God everyday to tell me it will all be okay. I know things will calm down they always do. I just feel like everything is hanging over my head. I do not like that feeling. I want peace. Stay with me and guide me help me ground myself. I want the next steps to be toward a good goal and a future that is promising and hopeful. The world is so full of hate and barriers. I want to go and be free and feel peace. Is that so hard? Are you stressed? Are you at peace? What is your next step? Thank you for reading my blog. Now onto the next life lesson.

Topic of Conversation

There is always something to talk about it whether it is the latest news, the pandemic, or even celebrity gossip. Does anyone really care? Does anyone have time for that. I guess some people do. There are also other things to talk about like things that are bothering us and things that hurt us. Many people hurt others for no reason or even the people that we trusted the most hurt us too. This is when we figure out who is our friend and who is our foe. Life throws curveballs all the time sometimes we don’t see them or we see them when it is to late. I believe that people talk about things with others they trust. If there is not trust they will not speak. Others talk about their husbands. wives, friends or bosses. No matter the topic there is always an answer or reason behind it. What do you like to talk about? Do you learn from others? Are you a listener? Are you a gossip person? How do you get your information? What intrigues you about the topic? Do you talk to a lot of people or just a few? Let me know. I want to hear from you. Thank you for reading my blog. Now onto the next life lesson.

What we say and how we say it

What did you say? What do you think? Did you say it in a nice way? How did you say it? There are many ways of saying something and many times things get misinterpreted. We say things and then realize maybe we should not have said anything. We have a right to say how we feel. All this stuff going on in the world today some of it is good and some not so good. If you really know someone and they really know you than you will be okay right?

Maybe maybe not it depends on the person. No one is perfect and we will make mistakes. Hopefully, we will listen better and learn from them. We should not pre judge someone on their thoughts or opinions. We all think and feel differently. We need to talk less and listen more. We need to hear each other and accept each other’s views and opinions we may not like it but we should respect them. We have all had people in our lives come and go. Some have stayed a long time and others just fade away. If the good out weigh the bad than you know it is is worth it. If you respect each other it is worth it. If you trust each other it is worth it. If you have no respect or trust than you have nothing. If you do have both than you need to hold on to that person because someone that respects you and trusts you and thinks of you in a positive light than that person is worth it. No matter if it is a friend, girl friend, wife, husband or who ever. If it feels right than it is right. We all want to feel accepted. We all want to have that one person in our lives that we can depend on. How do you feel? Do you have your person? Do you have someone that values your time and friendship or relationship? You are lucky and I hope that your friendship lasts a lifetime. Some are not so lucky and search their who lives for their person. Sometimes people drift a part or lose tough or move on. It takes two to make it work. It takes trust, respect, dedication and balance.

You need to balance your friendships with your family and your career and you life. If you can do that you are amazing. No one should be alone or afraid to have a relationship. We all slip and fall and we all get back up. I read something that I want to share “Not in a million years did they think that either of them would not be speaking to each other . They thought it was impossible but nothing is impossible. Anything can happen in a instant. Always remember the good with the bad”

Thank you for reading my blog. Now onto the next life lesson.

For Mom

Today is another day, week, decade, year without my mom. It has been 38 years since I hugged her. I know it has been a long time but it still feels like yesterday. It was a very stormy Wednesday in 1983. I was 11 years old. No girl that age should have had to live through what I did. I am not an adult and I have a family of my own. I make sure everyone is happy. healthy and has we have food on the table. I try and be the best mom that I could be. I have had many people listen to my story. I have had many friends and family come and go. It is all part of life I guess. I miss talking to her and sharing my life with her. I wish she knew her grandkids. I wish she could see me as a Mom. I think she is watching over me but it is not quite the same thing. Now years later and two years ago last month I lost my Dad. My parents are gone they are at peace I hope. The one constant in my life is gone and that is still strange to me. I know one thing I miss them both and even though they had a terrible marriage I hope they can both agree they loved me. The only common bond that links them is there three kids now adults. I have dealt with a lot of loss in my life. I am strong and i am going to be okay. Life is full of curve balls. I got this. I have my family and I have faith. I have a few friends and that is good with me. Now onto the next life lesson.

Are you a fixer?

Are you a fixer or a let it go person? Are you one to want to find comfort in closure? Of course we all want closure. Do you just let things slide? In a way if you let it go than that means it does not bother you or you just do not think it is worth talking about. Everything is worth talking about. We all need to get our feelings out. If you cannot express yourself than things will continue to bottle up inside you. If you are one to mend things than you will find a way to fix it. It is a personal choice. If you choose to let it go than that is your choice. If you choose to fix it than do it. We only get one life and once chance . Ever feel like you just want to slam the door and not fix anything? Let me know what you think? If you like to fix things than great. If you let it go than great. Do what you feel is right and do not let anyone tell you otherwise. Thank you for reading my blog. Now onto the next life lesson.


There are so many ways to start a conversation it could be a simple hello or a cheesy pick up line . Either way words and how you say things are important. It’s how you carry yourself. Are you laughing? Is the conversation humorous? Is it interesting? Whatever it is it should be comfortable and if not you simply excuse yourself. If it is serious than it should have your full attention. If you ask for advice or an opinion you better be ready for it.

If you are sensitive watch what you say. If you are not than go with the flow. Choose your words and be the best you that you know. Thank you for reading my blog. Now onto the next life lesson.

Thank you !

Today I have a story and I am going to tell it. I was at a party with my daughter. The host seemed rather cold and preoccupied. I understood because when you have a party you have to entertain people. This woman and her husband were having a party for their daughter. I was offered some food. I accepted and chose what I wanted between the two. I sat and observed all of the kids having fun. My daughter was having fun after all that is the most important thing for her to have fun. I had gone inside a few times and stood in the bathroom. I was very uncomfortable. No one really said anything to me. I felt invisible. I walked out and sat outside to enjoy the sunshine when suddenly I noticed someone I knew. She sat near me and then another and things seem to pick up. We will call them the D’s . I do not know if they knew how I felt but either way it got better. Everyone seemed to have a wonderful time. I did not want to say anything but I never got my food. I was embarrassed and I felt like the host or hostess should have asked if everyone was set . Everyone is different and I just accepted it. As the party was ending we gathered our stuff as said,” thank you to the hostess. I will never forget how delicious my invisible cheeseburger was. I went home and we went to dinner. I felt a whole lot better after I ate. What would you do ? Would you have said something? I think in this world you should speak up but then again I do not know these people and did not want to make anyone feel bad. I felt bad enough. Sorry but I did. I could not believe that not one adult approached me to introduce themselves. I know how that feels so I would not have done that. How would you feel? I know how I felt. It is now over and we can move on. Thank you for reading my blog. Now onto the next life lesson.

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